I had a friend
almost exactly ten years my senior
the sister I never had
a running buddy to laugh with
travel with while cleaning detritus.
Hours of laughing
the Aman and Stacey show
provided comedy and food
at a sculptors conference.
We eat, gather and hammer each year
The last time we were there in 2011
She fell ill and spiked a high fever that
chose not to break.
We drove home rather than getting
barred from our flight
Delirious, she would smile
looking out the window
She just wanted to go home
I know she worried about the cost
Offering to pay may have embarrassed her
My friend needed something she
wouldn’t give herself
I tried to give it to her
She meant more to me alive than not.
She refused the spinal tap and eventually recovered.
Two weeks ago, I received an email
she was in the hospital with
multiple organ failure
due to meningitis.
A medically induced coma
hopefully would allow her to heal
She woke from the coma
was in great pain
but remained on life support.
She was able to say goodbye
to her family then slipped away
when she was removed from life support.
She was a free spirit. Happy with anyone.
Helpful and willing to get her hands dirty.
Loved children. My boys remember her ability
to get them in and out of cars with the promise of food.
I remember her capacity for patience and compassion.
Her joy of life.
I will miss her being a part of my life.
The numbers of people who posted
their memories of her are numerous.
She was a part of so many lives.
Mother, friend, artist,
entrepreneur, sign painter,
Stacey of all trades.